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He Really DOES Want a Medal!

by Tonja Taylor
11/26/2020 / Womens Interest

It took me several years of (often stormy) marriage to realize this: My husband really does want a "medal" of appreciation, honor, and respect for what he does for me!

I was blessed to have had parents that taught me to say "Please" and "Thank you," and "Ma'am" and "Sir," and to show respect to those older than me. However, the respect my husband was wanting was not always modeled for me at home, and so my dear husband had to wait for me to learn to give him the deep respect and honor and love from my heart--even though I may have

Ephesians 5:31-33 states:

31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

It's not just a suggestion; it is a command. And I had to have God's help and much prayer and many heart-to-heart talks with my husband as we worked through various issues, before I could truly respect him the way he needed and deserved. There were many issues in his life and mine that had to be dealt with, and it was painful; very painful.

I am so glad that the LORD loves us no matter what, and that He knows everything --and I do mean everything, including every word we'll ever say, every thing we'll ever do, and every thought we'll ever think--before it is spoken or done or thought--since way before He sent our spirits to earth to live in human bodies!

Praise Him, He loves us with an everlasting love!

So one of the things I have had to learn (which works well with all people, by the way!) is patience--and that he often has thought very differently from me. For some reason, we humans are born expecting everyone to think like us, and we have to learn to be considerate of others, for it is actually very rare that anyone will ever think exactly like us!

So one of the ways we show respect to our husbands, and to all people (which is another command by our LORD) is to be patient and, when someone does not agree with us, to remember that they do not agree because they are thinking differently than us.

We all want to think we're right. However, that is why the unifying power of the Gospel is so vital; only God and His matchless, unfailing, unchanging Word are right!

If we can all agree on that, then, we are truly in harmony (which is the opposite of disagreement and strife) with one another and, more importantly, with our Father God and His Son Jesus Christ, Who died for us.

The bottom line is, our husbands deserve our respect. They need our respect. Respect to them--no matter their weaknesses--is vital to their identity as a husband. I am so thankful for the grace of God in my marriage (not my first, but my husband's), and that my husband truly does love God and loves me--even though, for years, I truly could not believe nor properly receive or respond to his love!

When you don't think you can do something, or you fail at it--like I have for years, until the LORD gave me breakthroughs (which involved, in large part, me repenting to the LORd and to my husband, for allowing bitterness and other negative emotions to cloud my perception of his love for me).

As He told me once years ago, the LORD will always help us with anything, if we will just ask Him. And, bless His wonderful name, many times He helps us when we don't! He is the best, ever-faithful, and all-knowing Father, Who is Love (I John 4:8)! Hallelujah!

So ask the LORD today to help you truly respect and honor your husband, even when you don't feel like it; especially when you don't feel like it! Although some husbands do not consider it respectful when you are transparent and 'brutally honest," as it's called, you can say, "Darling, I do respect you for so many things, but I'm struggling with respecting you for (whatever it is). Would you please pray for me about this? I appreciate all of the good things you do for me, and I love you and I'm glad you're my husband. I know God put us together, and I want to respect and love you more."

Three verses of Proverbs 31 state:

10A wife of noble character who can find?
    She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
    and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
    all the days of her life.

When we use proper words with our husbands, it shows our love. If there is bitterness and other negative emotions in our memories and hearts and minds, we need to ask the LORD to forgive us, help us forgive our husbands and others, and cleanse and heal our hearts, souls, and memories. He will.

The more our hearts are healed, the better our relationships wiil be, most of all with our husbands. After all, marriage is meant to be a picture to the world of Christ and His Bride, the Church.

Although your husband may be in a negative mood and not seem to be receiving your honesty, just trust God. He will help your husband see the heart behind your words, and He will work things out, one way or another.

Trust the LORD. Ask Him to help you forgive, love, and respect your husband. He will. It's the only way to truly have victory--victory for you over negative things, and a medal of honor for your husband!

Through books, courses, presentations, service, prayer, worship, and more, Tonja and her husband live to exalt God. Her series for girls, P.O.W.E.R. GIRL ADVENTURES, is now out (books I-V), along with LEGACY; YOUR HOLY HEALTH: VISIONS OF THE KING, and more. See the "River Rain Creative" YT channel.

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