In order to stop competing with other women, we must stop comparing. C.S. Lewis

As Teddy Roosevelt once said, “comparison is the thief of joy.” We all do it, men and women, compare ourselves to what others have and what we lack. Social media comparison is hardly fair, as we compare others' best moments in life snapped and filtered perfectly with our less-than-perfect lives.

We compare to see if we measure up to others' beauty, success, wealth, and happiness. Comparing ourselves to others is harmful because there will always be someone who does something better than us or have what we think we want. Comparison leads to unhappiness, discontentment, and steals your joy. How can you be truly happy and content comparing someone’s best qualities to your worst qualities? That is why comparison is so unfair, we never compare our best qualities with others' worst qualities.

Comparing our lives to others can cause us to feel angry, envious, and jealous. God has a specific plan for our lives, and the enemy would love nothing more than to keep us in sin and bondage so that we stay focused on everyone’s blessings.

We can damage our self-esteem when we compare, and it can make us feel not good enough. Comparison makes us feel like we can do better, and what we can do is just not good enough. Sure, some love to brag about all they have or do, and this can make you feel worse, but those types of people are most likely unhappy and need someone to validate how great their life is.

Once you stop comparing yourself to others, your self-esteem will increase. When you realize that you can be content with what you have and who you were created to be, you can stop comparing your life to others. Comparison acts as a powerful force that compels you to desire what others have while being unhappy with what you have.

Stephanie R. Reck, LMSW, LBT, BCCC
Stephanie Reck, Coaching & Consultation Services
www.stephaniereck.com
[email protected]
Stephanie Reck Coaching & Consultation Services, @2024
Author of, "Disciplining Your Mind 30 Days to a Better You!"