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An Evil That Fathers Do.
by Olawale Ogunsola For the purpose of this piece, A FATHER include: 1. A married man who is blessed with a female child. 2. A man, married or single, who, by any means, happened to be the first male a young girl has to be close to. Everyday, people go to marrriage registry to pledge their love to each other "until death parts us". This same "pair" of people still go to courts of law to tell Judges "We want you to dissolve our marrriage because we cannot continue as husband and wife.". This happens soon or late. What a great contradiction! This was (and still is) not God's plan to institute marrriage. One unassailable but little known truth is that fathers contribution to this unpleasant scenario is great. Fathers are not aware that they directly destroy the future homes of their daughters. Do you want to know how? Every woman is expected to be a home builder. A woman does this with her wisdom. Now, there are lots a young girl needs to know about a man. This must begin from her father's house. Do you know that first impression lasts long? The first man in a woman's life, in most cases, is her father. Whatever knowledge she gathers from him will form an initial and lasting impression in her heart. How a young girl perceives her father determines her perception of other men, most especially her husband, in the future. If "first impression lasts long", which impression do you give your daughter(s)? A man whose wife gave birth to a beautiful girl once hissed and left the maternity home in rage when he was so informed. He was not happy and hated the wife for it. What a mess! Do you think this father will love the little girl as she grew up? The answer nay be "No!". If the girl fails to experience a father's love, do you think she will truly trust any man's love in the future? It will be easier for such any woman in this category to leave her husband on any flimsy excuse. In the first instance, such go into marriage for other reasons rather than love. Brutal fathers wound the hearts if their daughters, thus making them potential haters of men, ditto their husbands. This type of fathers deny their daughters necessary "masculine training" required to weather the storms of their lives, most especially those of their homes. They make them available for "old women fables" that sometimes work against their success in future. Are you one of the brutal fathers? Are you unkind to your daughter(s)? A you like a lion to her? Can you be approached by her for anything? Today, you must have a complete change of attitude. You must not indirectly destroy the future joy of a family that your daughter ought to build. I love an old man's statement. I met him at an immigration office in 2013. He had many daughters and a lone son. He confidently said, "I trained my daughters like men. There is nothing they cannot do and they can easily adapt to any situation.". That is a father fir you! Therefore, make yourself available to your daughter(s). Speak kindly to her. Cherish her. Do not deny her the joy from a father which you can give. Your position in her life is crucial as the first man she grew up to know in her life. Begin to help build your daughter's future home today. Let her have confidence in you. Permit her to to have gut to confide in you. Allow her to trust you. If you do not treat your daughter like a Princess, it may be a spill over from your past. Perhaps, your mother did not treat you like a Prince. The ill-treatment must come to an end. Please do this. Do you want your heart to be healed of past childhood wounds? Please, visit regularly, if possible, follow my blog, www.peacelink.wordpress.com. You will not regret doing so. This is where I share the secrets of a peaceful home. Be informed or reminded that the Lord Jesus Christ's coming soon. Stay blessed and rapturable. The Author is the set man of CTFM(WORLD OUTREACH)and Presiding Pastor of Christ Restland Gospel Church.He is a Poet and author of many books. Visit his blogsites www.4thlink.wordpress.com and www.peacelink.wordpress.com for more quality contents. Article Source: http://www.faithwriters.com |