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4 Steps to Let Go of Denial - Christian Relationship Help
by Karla Downing Are you looking for Christian relationship help? This article offers 4 steps to let go of denial. A friend of mine complained that her college daughter didn't act responsibly while in Hawaii on her parent-paid vacation. The expectation was that she would call home regularly and not get into trouble. She didn't call home and she got into trouble. Her parents were disappointed, shocked, upset, and angry that they had given her the trip. The real problem was the parents' expectation. They wanted to give their daughter a graduation trip, but they did it by denying what they knew to be true about their daughter. They so desperately wanted her to act how they wanted her to act that they denied what they knew to be true. Had they faced the truth, they could have decided if they wanted to give her the trip anyway, knowing that she would probably do the same things over there she did at home. They could have spared themselves the betrayal, anger, shock, and disappointment. Denial is like a cushion that softens the landing on a fall. We can't take the impact of the truth, so we cushion ourselves from having to face the truth by believing something else. Denial is protective. When we first find out something that is too painful, we deny it is true. This is okay for a short time. We have to allow ourselves time to adjust. It is similar to the body going into shock to not feel pain when it is first injured. But in order to heal, there is a time that you have to feel the pain of facing the truth. When we refuse to accept what we know to be true, we set ourselves and others up to be disappointed and angry, so there is a price to pay for staying in denial. Here are 4 steps to let go of denial: 1. Identify why it is difficult to face. Are you afraid, angry, blaming yourself, embarrassed, or feeling out of control? Deal with the underlying emotion. 2. Expose yourself to the facts, so you will have to see all of the evidence. 3. Ask God to show you what you need revealed in order to accept the truth. 4. Embrace the principle that the truth will set you free (John 8:32), even though right now it feels like the opposite. Relationship Prayer: God, help me to have the courage to let go of denial. Show me what I need to know to embrace the truth. Relationship Challenge: Let go of your denial by using the suggestions in this article, so you will not set yourself up by having unreasonable expectations. Applying the four steps in this Christian relationship help will enable you to let go of denial in your difficult relationships. Next, if you need more practical tips and Biblical truths to help you change your relationships, get my FREE "15-Day Relationship Challenge" designed to give you back the power over your life. Just click here: http://www.Free15dayChallenge.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Article Source: http://www.faithwriters.com |