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Identify Four Misbeliefs You Need to Change to Detach From False Guilt - Christian Codependency
by Karla Downing Here's another help to overcome Christian codependency: Identify four common misbeliefs you need to change to detach from false guilt. Guilt is meant to help us identify when we have done something wrong. Guilt can be experienced as a physical pain, a nagging sense that something is wrong, a strong feeling that won't go away, a mental conviction, or a prickling of the conscience. Because guilt is associated with the assumption that we have done wrong, we assume that whenever we encounter guilt that it means we are guilty. This isn't necessarily true. Guilt can be false when it stems from wrong beliefs. The following misbeliefs are typical with Christian codependency and probably cause most of your false guilt in relationships: 1. You are responsible for the other person's happiness and unhappiness. 2. You are responsible for the other person's distress and discomfort when you refuse to rescue him/her from the consequences of personal choices. 3. You are responsible for the other person's feelings when you set a boundary. 4. You are selfish when you put yourself first. My mother-in-law lived alone. She struggled with being independent and making a life for herself. She typically complained about her loneliness and boredom. I felt responsible for fixing her, so her comments made me feel guilty. I blamed her for my guilt. I assumed she wanted me to feel guilty so I would take care of her. It wasn't until I recognized these four misbeliefs as my problem that I could detach from her loneliness and boredom. She had a right to say how she felt. It was my choice how I responded to her comments. When I suffered from false guilt, I resented anything I did for her because I felt that I had to do it. When I let go of my false guilt, I was free to do things for her because I wanted to. Relationship Prayer: God, help me to identify the misbeliefs that lead to false guilt and let go of them. Relationship Challenge: When you feel guilty, analyze the guilt to see if there are any false beliefs involved. If there are, detach from the guilt by recognizing it as inaccurate. To overcome your Christian codependency, identify the four common misbeliefs you need to change to detach from false guilt. Start with identifying them and then choosing to detach until the false guilt goes away. God's truth is greater than the false condemnation you feel. Next, if you need more practical tips and Biblical truths to help you change your relationships, get my FREE "15-Day Relationship Challenge" designed to give you back the power over your life. Just click here: http://www.Free15dayChallenge.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Article Source: http://www.faithwriters.com |